Praying in My Will

I've been thinking about how we talk about praying in God's will. According the the bible (like in James 4:13-17 ) it is important to pray in God's will. But are we praying in our will?
What I mean is... What are some things that God can't do? Violate his promises, violate our will, etc.
He can't force us to change.
Are we praying and asking God to violate our will? Or we asking God to change us? Or are we asking for God to give us wisdom to see growth opportunities for what they are.
I don't believe that God is my pilot in life, not can He be. He is my navigator. He can not live my life for me, He can only help me navigate it.